Deserving place and space
A place and space have to be deserved. We can't pretend to have changed our nature by simply changing our place. It's not simply going to a place that makes us deserve it. We can't go to a place; we have to find our place. It's better to strive to come to our place than it is to go and never find it. Going to a place is often more about finding ways to avoid the strong opposing winds than it is to really stick. This puts us in a very unbalanced position—one that is very easy to lose and very hard to deserve. If we are a sum of our influences, then it is not clear why we think we can simply undo these influences with a magic wand by exposing ourselves to new ones. New experiences can merely add to who we are, but they can't fundamentally change us. By thinking that we have changed, we might be luring ourselves.